Gotta get some perspective on what matters. If incompetent, lazy and/or stupid people stress you out that much, you’re going to be dead at a very early age, because people who fit that description comprise the vast majority of all societies.

Also, realize that “not doing things exactly as I would or want them to be done, catering to my own timeframes and desire” is not necessarily being lazy or stupid. Do you cater to their wants the same way you want them to cater to yours?

It could very well be that you are simply surrounded by complete losers and idiots. Make sure, if you’re going to stress yourself to an early grave, that it’s really over them being lazy and/or incompetent, and not a case of you having a very self-centered life view.

I may be biased but I will say for graduate school Buffalo is,better than Binghamton. Much bigger University with a much bigger research profile. We used to get snowy winters, it has changed, we get few isolated snow storms or isolated cold fronts and long stretches of mild weather. Of course in the summer, it is better than any place I have been to among 45 states. Not hot not humid just pleasant sunny skies. Social life in Buffalo Is better than Binghamton because Greater Buffalo Area has 1 million people and a dozen universities and colleges. Of course I don’t know what your field is, but with limited info I have I will say Buffalo.