Most people do not really know what they want which is why they never get it. If you were to walk into a busy shopping mall and ask some people at random what they want then the vast majority would not be able to tell you.
You would get answers like:
“I don’t really know”
“I haven’t thought about it”
“I am not sure”
And so on. If you don’t know what you really want from your life then you will never get it. You need clarity here otherwise you will just drift along in your life. So make a commitment now to think about what you really want in the short term and the long term.
Why don’t People know what they want?
You would think that as highly intelligent creatures every member of the human race would know what they want from life. After all they have this wonderful thing called a brain, but the problem is they don’t know how to use it properly. Humans can achieve anything. Look around you and see what we have invented and created.
But thinking about what we really want takes effort. It requires focused thinking which most people would prefer not to do. They would prefer to do something that requires very little thought effort such as wasting their time on social media.
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There is a message here – if you really want to get what you want then you need to put in the effort to get it. This starts with thinking through what improvements you want to make in different areas of your life. So put your phone on silent, turn off the TV and any other distractions and take the time out to design your life going forward.
How to Decide what you want
Get a pen and plenty of paper and find somewhere quiet where you won’t be disturbed. How long will this take you? Well it depends – we are talking about shaping your destiny here so how long it takes should not be an issue for you. It will take as long as it takes.
Divide a sheet of paper in two by drawing a line in the middle. On the left hand side make a heading “things I don’t want” and on the right “things I do want”. Then start thinking about different areas of your life such as:
- Your finances
- Your relationships
- Your job or business (how you make money)
- Your personal life
- Your hobbies
- Your health and wellbeing
You can add more aspects of your life here this is not an exhaustive list. So as an example let’s take a look at the money that you are earning right now. If you are earning $30,000 a year and want more then write “I want to earn more than $30,000 a year” on the left and then “I want to earn $100,000 a year” on the right hand side. Do not be concerned about how you will achieve this at this point. Just let your mind run wild and write down what it tells you. Think about all of the different aspects of your life such as your health and write down what comes to mind. If you don’t want to be 20 pounds overweight then write on the right what weight you want to be.